by alkamy | Nov 13, 2019 | Mindset
“Stop shoulding yourself!” It’s a common phrase uttered by therapists and life coaches alike. It has a lot of merit. Should is a filthy word that shuts down motivation and seems to want to shame us into action. When we shame ourselves, not only do we feel bad, but it...
by alkamy | Oct 24, 2019 | Limiting Beliefs, Mindset, Psychology, Taking Action
Many of my coaching clients struggle with putting themselves out there. It’s such a big deal, I’ve even created an acronym for it: PMOT (putting myself out there). At one point when I was working on my own fear of putting myself out there, I would award myself PMOT...
by alkamy | Oct 9, 2019 | Mindset, Psychology, Taking Action
Today I want to talk about the F word. failure | fālyər | A lack of success An unsuccessful person, enterprise or thing We have a dysfunctional relationship with failure. The problem is two-fold: 1) we have a tendency to avoid failure at all costs and 2) we mistake a...
by alkamy | Oct 7, 2019 | Limiting Beliefs, Mindset
My friend, Denise, recently posted something that caught my eye. It said something like this: “If you had someone who was following you around criticizing your every move, saying bad things about your appearance and your competence, you’d kick them to the curb, right?...
by alkamy | Sep 17, 2019 | Mindset
One of my favorite quotes is from an ancient text known as the Gospel of Thomas. The quote says: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” It...
by alkamy | Jul 2, 2019 | Mindset, Psychology
Lately, I keep running into the same advice: “You need to engage in self-acceptance.” Now, I have to be honest with you. This feels pretty counter-intuitive and so the advice has been driving me crazy. “I’m trying to change here!” I keep thinking. “How am I supposed...
by alkamy | Jun 13, 2019 | Mindset
My grandpa loved to bowl, so much so that he kept doing it even after he was legally blind. When my grandpa was in his 80s, he developed macular degeneration. Basically, the center of his field of vision was burnt out. With characteristic understatement, he used to...
by alkamy | Apr 8, 2019 | Archetypes
Most of us have a deep-seated desire to understand ourselves better. We want to know what makes us uniquely us, why we do stupid things, or why we can’t get ourselves to do the things we know we should. We love to learn our strengths, take personality assessments,...
by alkamy | Mar 15, 2019 | Mindset
In October, I had the life-transforming experience of going to Byron Katie’s School for the Work. I’ve been wanting to write about it ever since but I’ve been struggling with how to approach the topic. Katie (as everyone calls her) is pretty hard to describe, probably...
by alkamy | Nov 29, 2018 | Mindset
Flow is that blissful experience that you have when you are so engaged in what you are doing that time slips away. You are one with the task, completely absorbed and utterly content. I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about. Studies show that 87% have...
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