by alkamy | Mar 25, 2020 | Mindset, Recommended Reading
I’m a voracious reader. Perhaps even manic. I routinely read five books at a time. I can be pretty fickle too, not always finishing books. I guess I’m always in search of that new idea, that game changing insight. Some of my biggest personal breakthroughs have come...
by alkamy | Dec 19, 2019 | Mindset, Psychology
“Our thoughts create our reality.” I love this statement. I live my life by it. I don’t know who originated it, but it’s an idea I’ve heard from Wayne Dyer. To me, it makes sense on so many levels. It feels a bit like common sense. Whatever we attend to the most we’re...
by alkamy | Nov 25, 2019 | Mindset
For years I have been experiencing a confusing state that I had no name for. It would creep in after I’d do something that took me out of my comfort zone. It was a bit of dread, a kind of “what the heck did I just do?” gut wrenching feeling. Recently, I learned that...
by alkamy | Nov 13, 2019 | Mindset
“Stop shoulding yourself!” It’s a common phrase uttered by therapists and life coaches alike. It has a lot of merit. Should is a filthy word that shuts down motivation and seems to want to shame us into action. When we shame ourselves, not only do we feel bad, but it...
by alkamy | Oct 24, 2019 | Limiting Beliefs, Mindset, Psychology, Taking Action
Many of my coaching clients struggle with putting themselves out there. It’s such a big deal, I’ve even created an acronym for it: PMOT (putting myself out there). At one point when I was working on my own fear of putting myself out there, I would award myself PMOT...
by alkamy | Oct 9, 2019 | Mindset, Psychology, Taking Action
Today I want to talk about the F word. failure | fālyər | A lack of success An unsuccessful person, enterprise or thing We have a dysfunctional relationship with failure. The problem is two-fold: 1) we have a tendency to avoid failure at all costs and 2) we mistake a...
by alkamy | Oct 7, 2019 | Uncategorized
My friend, Denise, recently posted something that caught my eye. It said something like this: “If you had someone who was following you around criticizing your every move, saying bad things about your appearance and your competence, you’d kick them to the curb, right?...
by alkamy | Sep 17, 2019 | Mindset
One of my favorite quotes is from an ancient text known as the Gospel of Thomas. The quote says: “If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.” It...
by alkamy | Jul 2, 2019 | Mindset, Psychology
Lately, I keep running into the same advice: “You need to engage in self-acceptance.” Now, I have to be honest with you. This feels pretty counter-intuitive and so the advice has been driving me crazy. “I’m trying to change here!” I keep thinking. “How am I supposed...
by alkamy | Jun 13, 2019 | Mindset
My grandpa loved to bowl, so much so that he kept doing it even after he was legally blind. When my grandpa was in his 80s, he developed macular degeneration. Basically, the center of his field of vision was burnt out. With characteristic understatement, he used to...
